There are far too many people concerned what everybody thinks about them. In doing this they try to portray someone “tougher”, “meaner” or some other insane projection, other than what they really are. It is by far more important to develop character instead of a reputation. Reputation is great when you are young, everybody wants a “rep”. However in gaining that reputation, you lose sight of who you are and as you get older you either have to continue to live up to the reputation or spend all of your time trying to repair your reputation. In my opinion neither sounds fun. How about this… Be yourself. You have heard this mantra time and time again growing up. It is some of the best advise you can get. If you are yourself, there is no need to be something you are not. In addition to being yourself I would add, express yourself. If you think you are creative, create something. The trick is do what pleases you, not what you think you can sell or anything like that. If it makes you happy, at the end of the day that’s all that matters. You have created happiness for yourself, what more can you ask for? If others see it and can appreciate it, thats great. If they don’t it doesn’t matter. You achieved your goal in making happiness for yourself.
This is another one of the keys to life. Strive to make yourself happy. Like the song goes:
“But it’s all right now, I learned my lesson well
You see, ya can’t please everyone, so ya got to please yourself” -“Garden Party” was written by Ricky Nelson.
Truer words where never uttered. Many people try to be accepted by people in general, where I believe it is more important to be able to be comfortable with yourself. The only expectations you have to live up to are the ones you set for yourself. Once you are comfortable with yourself, being yourself with a group of people is a snap.